What About Me?
That’s right. What about me? Whatever happened to quiet time? Whatever happened to the zen shall we say and how the heck do we make the time? What about me? What about you? Damn, that was a whole lot of questions, now let me tell you a thing or two about how I manage (or mismanage) depending on who you ask. After 13 months of being a full-time SAHD, I have earned my two cents worth.
So here’s the deal. You can add a whole other days worth of time and you guessed it, there is still no time for me. So, if there’s no actual me time, what is this post all about? It’s about making me time even when you’re not alone. I don’t have issues with that. If you were to sit with my wife and ask her what I’m really all about, she’d tell you I’m the kid in these pictures, not just the kids!
The Only Me Time I Need
As I write this post, it’s still dark out. It’s 4:30 in the morning and bedtime was only a nap’s worth of sleep ago. It’s all good though, sleep is highly overrated no? I use this insanely early morning time to catch up on things I’ve let slide. Today, for instance, is a mountain of unfolded laundry that I get to tackle in peace. This me time comes at the cost of sleep. Every other me time tip I have is with kids wide awake! It’s okay guys, if you’re a new parent, don’t let this scare you, if you have more than one, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Taking a mid-day shower and some extra care time also ranks pretty high on the me time spectrum. Granted there are always children about, so that half an hour from start to finish is more than enough time to renew my sanity. This one my friends is my favourite and easiest tip ever. Get off your butts and take them to a park. This does, however, work best with multiple kids but I have been fortunate with my kids playing with other kids in the park which makes for some pretty decent quiet time (no this doesn’t mean the other kid’s parent babysits your kid). It means that you are finally not the focal point of their every breath.
My all-time favourite me time activity? Just hanging under the Mulberry tree on a blanket and some toys with whichever kid cares to join me. Hanna is forever at my side and is always ready to relax and point at all the pictures of whatever kids book I grab while Justin would rather just hang out and be included. Either way, I’ll take it. It’s my me time and my me time is all about having next to no me time. Having so many kids around all of the time, Ive gotten used to having occupied me time. I love it.
The cold hard truth though is that if you don’t make your me time happen, it rarely ever does. If you’re a SAHD or SAHM, the minute your spouse gets home is usually when the kids become their problem, not yours. That was sometimes the case when I was in the workforce. Trust me guys, it isn’t fair and more often than not, you’re looking for an argument.
One cup of me time once a day
(thank god for staging, this was all of a 20 second break from all kids for this pic)
So, at the end of the day it’s like this. Parenting is not about me time. It’s about them time. Let us not forget that we have chosen to have kids (never-ending chaos). With that, is it not expected that we give up the right to me time in order to nurture and to develop our kids? I think so. Besides, they grow up and leave and give us nothing but me time.
So to recap, if you are like me and can live without a ton of sleep, enjoy your absolute me time. If you can’t, don’t sacrifice your kids’ imagination and inquisitiveness by throwing them in front of a tv or tablet. Make the little time you do have count. Find your me time amongst the chaos and you may just find that it really does work. When the kids are all grown up and gone, I’m certain I’ll be the first in line to beg them all to visit. And finally, the sun begins to rise. Have a great day all, I’m off to fold that mountain of laundry I have waiting.
What are some of your favourite me time things to do?